Love Spells: Are They Ethical?

We Love a Morally Sound Love Spell:

Pull out the rose petals, red and pink candles, and Himalayan sea salt! Valentine’s Day is upon us and love spells are in the air.

An alluring part of witchcraft is the idea of the love spell – the opportunity to bring new love into our life or strengthen the love that’s already there.

Law of Attraction

Love spells are basically attraction magic. You may be familiar with the law of attraction – you invite the same energy you offer out into the world. Manifestation uses the law of attraction. When you manifest, you’re supposed to think about how you would feel if you already attained what it is you are wishing for. This way, that affirmation goes out into the world and is returned back to you.

The law of attraction is a “spiritual principle” which suggests “like attracts like and positive thinking can usher in a more positive reality.” (

To be successful with manifestation and the law of attraction, you still have to put in the work. Positive thinking alone won’t guarantee the results you’re hoping for. You must practice “living in alignment with your goals and taking the necessary steps to bring them to life.” ( For example, if you want to get an “A” on an exam, you still need to take steps to achieve that grade. Giving yourself enough time to study and review the material before exam time will help your desire become reality.

Your Love Intention

So, what does this have to do with love spells? A Cosmopolitan article puts it nicely: “A spell is basically just a special way to ask for what you want. It consists of three steps: creating an intention, invoking it through a ritual, and putting that intention into action (like opening up those dating apps or texting your crush).”

You still gotta put in the work. Love spells also can’t make anyone fall in love with you (here’s where ethics comes into play). Casting a spell to make someone fall in love with you takes away that person’s free will, which can lead to some icky negative energy you probably don’t want coming your way.

Pro tip: if your looking for new love, have a specific intention in mind for what you want from your love spell (a short-term or long-term partner, a strictly sexual relationship, a strictly emotional relationship, etc.) but keep it open and broad, not focused on a particular person.

You can also use love spells to strengthen a relationship you already have with someone. “

If you’re focusing your spell on a specific individual, you need to already have a strong connection with that person, and you shouldn’t attempt to transform who they are or how they feel; instead, focus on inviting more abundance and love into your relationship with them,” says astrologer and occult practitioner Aliza Kelly Faragher for Allure.

Using Love Spells

Love spells are a great way to tell the universe, “HEY! I’M READY FOR A BOO, OKAY?” Of course, love spells aren’t all about getting cute new boos. Self-love spells are just as (if not more) useful.

Love and self-love spells can be in the form of spell bottles, sachets, baths, candle magic, kitchen magic – there are countless ways to cast love magic. Here’s a source for a few beginner-level love spells you can try out: – beginner love spells

Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to explore love and self-love magic! I’ll leave you with one more quote from Aliza Kelly Faragher: “casting spells ethically will lead to the best outcomes for others and for yourself. The most effective spells are those rooted in empathy, kindness, and compassion, so always conjure with warmth.”


Happy casting!

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